Prose Tile:  Live Well, 6" x 4", hand made one of a kind ceramic wall plaque by Tammy Vitale, $22

So this is my offering for AEM23 – another prose tile.  I never did make it into the studio except for about 1/2 hour of starting to put things away.  It's cold.  And dark (even with lights) and I just wasn't inclined.  Today Husband will be in the garage working on his bike so I have no excuse for not getting in the studio and glazing.  Although, actually, I can think of three or twenty reasons why I should just stay upstairs and laze about.  Onward – I have a reprieve and can actually get things I need done before I have to deliver them.  And not run into the time wall.  Really.

I was reading Alyson Stanfield's Art Biz Blog this morning and they were talking about thank-yous.  And a commenter left a link to Simplecard.com.  So I got sidetracked and made up 3 card packages (25 for $29, no charge for uploading, envelopes and shipping included).  But first I went to VistaPrint to see how their cards measured up (cheaper but only if you've already uploaded the images you want, and I hadn't).  and I got sidetracked again getting a bunch of their free stuff:  large postcards, small postcards, a calendar with my work on it, business cards since I'm almost already out…$9 something.  then back to Simplecards.  Yesterday my excuse for not going into the studio was doing my holiday shopping on line.  Definitely cranked it out.  Feel very good about that.  Know what I need to go into stores for and my budget for it.  Since I'm going to be working long hours between now and then I wanted to get that out of the way and I did – productive procrastination.

Today, my 5th day of celebration,  I am celebrating Christine Kane (I am not grateful that I can only get to her blog sideways – my computer refuses to go directly to it unless I go through someone else's link…generously she tried to help me figure out why, but we came up with nothing.  Christine does a great retreat in Asheville NC several times a year – if you can gift yourself with this – and she does offer one scholarship – do it).  And I'm going to paste one of her articles here that goes with yesterday's prose tile:  when you talk to yourself, be nice.  Because that particular phrase seems to have struck a nerve with folks, and Christine's article is pertinent.  So here it is

Who Do You Think You Are?

You've heard it.

I've heard it.

We can even laugh about it because it's so common.

I'm talking about the snarky voice in your head that mouths off whenever you think about being a little bolder, or a little decadent, or more self-nurturing.

It's the voice that says, "Who do you think you are?"

I'm embarrassed to admit this, but mine shows up as a group of high school girls.

Their eyes are lined with thick black pencil. They wear concert t-shirts. Their hair is burnt from too many home perms. One of them steps forward and says, with her hands on her hips, "Who do you think you are?" And then she turns to the others and says, "Who does she think she is?" Then they all take an aggressive step forward. (Welcome to an average day at my old high school!)

My friend Joy told me that "Who do you think you are?" jumps in whenever she imagines hanging out on the sofa reading magazines.

A few years ago, I saw Oprah speak. She said that every time she wanted to achieve more, the first voice she heard was "Who do you think you are?"

Every woman I know has her own version of this voice waiting in the wings.

In other words: Stay down, play small, shut up, and don't embarrass yourself. Don't even bother because you won't make it, you don't deserve it, and everyone knows it, and they'll all laugh at you when you fail.

So, next time that voice jumps up in your head, here's what you do:

Answer it.

Really. Who do you think you are?

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One time, I was telling a mentor about some fears coming up around a choice I was making.

I said, "…and all the voices in my head are saying, 'Who do you think you are?'"

And he looked at me and said, "Well? Who do you think you are?"

I smiled and continued with my story.

He cut in.

"No. Stop. I really want to know. Who do you think you are? Tell me right now."

In a very tiny voice, I told him.

Then he made me say it again in a bigger, stronger voice. And again after that.

He said, "There. Now you have an answer for your voices."

Now I do this exercise every time those voices arise.

Here's a tip:

When you answer that question, use language that speaks the truth of your strengths and values

In other words, make it authentic.

It's tempting to recite something that sounds "lofty" or "holy." I know you know what I mean. "I am a divine being, living in divine perfection with power and grace..and blah blah blah…abundance and light."

Okay, fine.

True as that may be, if that language doesn't resonate with you, you'll never feel any bolder, and those high school girls with the black eye pencil will put their cigarettes out on your shoe.

The Co-op of Lack

My theory is that "Who do you think you are?" is actually a Co-op.

It's a collective body of voices saying, "Agree with us in the lack that we see! Agree with us that there are no other options! Agree with us that no one has any power over life conditions!"

It's actually pretty convenient.

It's convenient to have this world-view because it gives you permission to stay stuck. It never requires that you do anything about it because after all, you're dealing with a whole world-view!

Think about it.

When you say, "I no longer want to work with this abusive client," you're also saying, "AND, I believe there are multitudes of others out there for me."

When you say, "I'm gonna nap right now, and I will be more productive and happier because of it," you're also saying, "AND, I believe that there's more than enough time for me to get my to-do's done."

Get it?

Essentially, you're telling the Co-op that you've decided to create a whole new world-view!

Extra Credit Bonus Tip

Let's be honest.

Most likely there are occasions when you've been the one saying, "Who does she think she is?" (Even if it's only in your head.)

Don't be ashamed. It simply means that you have more opportunities to shift those old lack mindsets. Usually those mindsets are saying: "I'm feeling small and poor, so she should be small and poor too." We've all caught ourselves doing this.

Even if it's uncomfortable, you can choose to bless or praise anyone who seems to be taking bigger strides in her life. Then remind yourself again who you think you are, and join her!

Performer, songwriter, and creativity consultant Christine Kane publishes her 'LiveCreative' weekly ezine with more than 4,000 subscribers. If you want to be the artist of your life and create authentic and lasting success, you can sign up for a FRE*E subscription to LiveCreative at www.christinekane.com.

thought for the day:  Besides writing practice [my method] includes days of walking, days when I never think of my writing.  But deep in my belly, my inner compass is focusing due north, preparing.  I use daydreaming, travel, meditation – always I'm hungry, waiting for the time I am ripe, feeding that place in me that wants to speak.  I keep her silent until she glows red with anticipation and can't wait to discover herself on the page – then I charge like a wild animal onto the paper and pour it out.  Natalie Goldberg, Thunkder and Lightning:  Cracking Open the Writer's Craft