3 Ways to Ease Overwhelm

3 Ways to Ease Overwhelm

Necklace designed and made for Daughter's 34th bday by me, her awesome Mommy!

Do you feel like you have a good support system for yourself and for selling your art?

The majority, overall, answer “yes.”  But the highest percentage say yes with the caveat that they sometimes feel overwhelmed.

Are you surprised?  I certainly am not!  Remember I, too, am a practicing artist.  I am writing from a perspective of almost 10 years working full time at my art.

Just like you, I have learned that  overwhelm goes with the territory.  So the good news is that if you are feeling overwhelmed, you aren’t the only one, and it isn’t just you.  Like any self-employed business person, the Artist finds herself responsible not only for creating the product, but also for all the administrative, marketing, planning, budgeting and go-fering required to keep any business running.  And since she is usually working at/from her home studio – why of course she can walk the dog every two hours, clean up after breakfast, do the grocery shopping and take care of the myriad details of running a house.  And every now and then take an outside job to fill in the financial gaps.

Overwhelm?

It’s a wonder we all aren’t in a coma!

Last year I blogged about 11 ways to avoid a solopreneural meltdown.  I’ve grown wiser since then  and realize that 11 ways are too many ways.  While trying to be helpful, perhaps I only added more “things I should be doing” to your already over long list.  Not good when you’re in the midst of overwhelm.

Today I’m not going to overdeliver and give you 5 ways to deal with overwhelm instead of just 3.  I’m going to give you exactly 3 things to think about when the demons are clawing at the door shouting how you just aren’t good enough to [fill in your own demon's particular message here].

1.  Be grateful – yes, even for your demons.  They are the voices of your yesterday – and they are letting you know, even before you realize consciously, that your old ways are dying and you are already on a new path.  Thank them for helping you realize that you’re growing in ways you can’t measure by marks on the door jam.  And now that you know you are growing, start acknowledging all the ways you’ve grown into new and glorious ways of being in this world.

2.  Know that you are the hero of your own story – and heroes are always flawed – they are imperfect.  But they go on their hero’s journey anyways.  And it is never the destination, but always the journey that makes them, and you, a hero.  Perfection not required.  Knowing the way and how:  not required.   All you have to do is go because the Universe loves a hero and things and people and events occur that no one – least of all  we, the flawed and imperfect heroes – expect.  Pay attention to the unexpected gifts (that almost always look like challenges).  Be grateful.

3.  Connect:  on-line or in person - notice others who are on the artist’s journey.   Share your journey and listen to them.  Be grateful for those who help you divide your sorrow and multiply your joy.

 

Bonus

Here’s a lovely post by Molly Gordon on “Why Neediness is Essential For Your Business”

And a wonderful  Ruth Davis post at her Spark the Heart blog:  Action Comes before Inspiration

Wylde Women’s Wisdom

…I don’t know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass,
how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life

- Mary Oliver, The Summer Day

About Tammy Vitale

Tammy Vitale's life’s passion - to make a safe place for women to claim their Hell YES!!. Discover more about her and her passion. She's published Shift , a book of poetry; a short story in the anthology Fearless Voices: True Stories by Courageous Women and numerous poetry chapbooks.

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Comments

  1. I like your 3 rules and love the Mary Oliver poem.
    Hope you had a happy Easter. Wishing you a lovely spring, Tammy!xo

  2. Just what I needed! Having picked up side work to help pay my bills while still trying to have a full time art business, overwhelm seems to have become a lifestyle. All three tips are great but the first one – gratitude – really struck me. Feeling grateful for all the wonderful opportunites as well as the lessons I am learning, feels so much better than feeling overwhelmed. Thank you so much for this post!

  3. I am on overwhelm. I do not work outside the home and not much inside the home anymore with retirement upon us and kids grown. But, I have a 24/7 husband and find t hard to settle down to do art as he’ll call on me, “needing” me for something or other so I wait, wait til I know he is watching TV or out fiddling on work outside to settle down but wait, he might call me to help with something and my brush may be full of paint or…. Am I unusual or do many women cater so much to someone else. I feel like there is no one to talk to or that I am being silly and weak letting him walk over me like that and he’ll say he doesn’t and I say I’ve been married over 38 years and not going to leave at this point and well, is that overwhelm?

  4. Timaree: He can’t walk over you unless you let him. This is not overwhelm. It is co-dependency and not holding your own boundaries. How do you want to live the rest of your life?

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