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Moonflowers by Tammy Vitale
Moonflowers by Tammy Vitale

You know you’re a

solopreneur

when you’re the one doing it all.  You’re the CEO and the CEO’s assistant, the tech person and the bookkeeper and the accountant, you’re the design team, the production team and the marketing department, you’re the office clean-up staff, and oh, because you’re working from home, surely you have time to do the grocery shopping, the laundry and the general house duties, not to mention taking the kids everywhere they need to go if you’re at that age.

Well, yes.  Once you write it all down it looks like quite a lot, doesn’t it.  And it is.  But you really don’t have to do it all at once or even do it all.  Okay – put your skepticism aside and just think about the following suggestions for one minute, or 30 seconds, whichever you can clear out right now.

1.       First and foremost:  get really (really REALLY) clear that as a solopreneur you are in business.  You may be working from your home but you are working; therefore, grocery shopping, the laundry, general house duties and the kids are not part of your job description.  Handle those things however you would handle them were your office not in your home.

2.     When you are feeling overwhelmed and ready to go back to the daily grind because you “just can’t take being a solopreneur anymore,” take a breath. Get your notebook and set the timer for 15 minutes. Write  “Why I want to be in business for myself” for 7 minutes (don’t lift your pen or gaze into space.  Just write everything that comes to mind, even if it seems to go off topic – keep writing).  Then for the next 7 minutes, list all the things you have accomplished in the past year or since you went into business for yourself  – if you’re having a hard time, start with: I got notepads and pens to write with, I have a phone of some sort, I’ve gotten out of bed and worked on this X mornings – and take it from there.  Read it over for the last minute.

3.     Light a candle or move to that big overstuffed executive suite chair that you love.  Close your eyes and honor the creative, courageous, amazing person you are.  Give her a pat on the back or a big hug (physically – go ahead, no one is watching except you).  Know that you can do anything you set your mind on, including being a solopreneur.

4.      Make a project list. Stick with the big view, not the tasks that go with the projects.

5.     Recognize that you do not have to do every one of these projects at the same time (no, you don’t.  At this very moment it may feel that way, but no, you don’t.) .  Even if you weren’t a solopreneur and worked for someone other than yourself, you still wouldn’t have to do them all at the same time.  Think about them and put them in some kind of logical order, starting with what needs to be done before something else can be done.

6.     Choose 3 projects to start and/or complete this week.  Only 3.  No more than 3.  Three.  Yes you can pick just 3.  T-h-r-e-e. (And please don’t make each of them something like:  learn WordPress, set up my entire website and have 5 blogs in place by next Monday).

7.     Break your projects into tasks, and put the tasks on your calendar.  This will help you see what you can reasonably expect to accomplish in a balanced work day.  As your expectations enter the real world, overwhelm will exit.

8.     Every time you feel overwhelmed, look at your calendar and see what it is you are going to accomplish this week.  Set your timer and for the next 1/2 hour just work on one of your tasks. After the half hour you are allowed to worry again (but only for 5 minutes while you take a rest break because then you’re going to set the timer for another 1/2 hour).  Repeat this as often as necessary until quitting time (you do have a quitting time, right?  So quit at that time! Get on with the rest of your life!).

9.     Hire help for the last 3 things on your old todo list that have been the last 3 things for the last 6 months.  You aren’t going to do them.  If they need to be done, hire someone.  If they need to be done, you can’t afford not to hire someone, if only temporarily and for one time.  You’re still a solopreneur, but now you’re  a solopreneur who hires consultants.  Believe me, once you decide to hire someone, it will completely shift the way you see yourself – so much so that you will be working from an entirely different level.  That level would be the one where your business really starts taking off.

10.     Invest in yourself. You are the most important part of your business. You are more important than the art supplies, or office supplies, or latest software or computer upgrade.  Take a class or four, make sure your clothes make you look and feel like the Goddess you are.  Hire a coach to help you see where you are limiting yourself and encourage you to expand you imaginings of exactly what is possible.

11.     Make sure you have a regular schedule for renewal (I’m not saying a week’s vacation, although that would be good; I’m saying a day or 1/2 day that is just for you – at least go get a facial or massage).

12.     Find a supportive community – other solopreneurs who like you are ready to AmpUP and create/work/live out loud.

13.     If all else fails, sign up for my free coloring book ( above my photo here), buy an 8 pack of crayons and let your inner child come out and play for a while.  Always works for me!

I see I’ve gone past the initial number which only means there are abundant ways to take care of yourself and not be overwhelmed.  I’ll just bet you could add 3 or 4 more (why don’t you take a minute to jot those down so you won’t fogret them?!).  So I’ll stop here – because I’m sure you now have the idea.

Wylde Women’s Wisdom: Life is made up of many facets, and no one facet is more or less important than another.  A meaningful life is one of balance.  I’d like to give you permission to expand your view of life beyond work to other areas – your emotional and physical health, your relationships, your spiritual well-being, your leisure time, and the sharing of yourself with others…When you live a more holistic life, you naturally distribute your time and energy differently, creating a sense of balance that leaves you less vulnerable to crisis when changes occur in one area or another. Cheryl Richardson, Take Time for Your Life:  A 7-Step Program for Creating the Life You Want

10 Comments

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  • Yup, I am definitely a solopreneur, and your words are timely and helpful.

    Moonflowers is a great piece.

    I also think the website looks FABULOUS, dahling. You are definitely “unstuck” and offering great encouragement to others to do the same (with a list of exercises to move the things along, as usual).

    Congratulations!

  • Hi Tammy! Your Blog and Website look wonderful, and this post here is good to read in the morning, just when you got up and are ready to face the solopreneural day:) Thanks for sharing your insights and wisdom, and have a wonderful week,
    love
    Andrea

  • Hey Tammy!
    As always your blog contains many words of wisdom. I am going to try to do #6. I have tried, and failed, to do this in the past but after reading this post I am going to go at it again.
    I’d keep my fingers crossed but I’m going to need them all…LOL!
    Thanks for all your smart and practical advise.
    Have a great rest-of-the week.
    Lois

  • These are great suggestions! It’s so easy to fall into doing everything ourselves and helps to have a reminder to take a time out and re-evaluate before meltdown hits. Thank you.

  • Thank you Tammy! I am going to print this out so I can refer to it everytime I feel overwhelmed. Just reading it helped me. Imagine what would happen if I actually implemented your suggestions!

  • Great post, Tammy – thanks for the nudges!

  • Great reminders, Tammy! Thanks!

  • Great post, Tammy. It really is hard to do everything – I really appreciate #’s 1 and 5 today!

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